Hmmmmmmm, how interesting! I clicked on the suspicious pencil-looking icon at the top of my WordPress Reader site and vwala! There appeared the “new editor” allowing me to type a post that I had no idea I was going to write….until this very moment. And, honestly, I have a lot on my mind. A LOT. But, sometimes with so much brewing it is difficult to narrow the writing down to what is burning the most on my heart to get out, to purge or to share.
The thing is, that clicking on this new icon to which I had no idea what it was simply allowed me to narrow it down that much easier. It’s about change. It is super easy to write about CHANGE. At least, I think it is because it is the ONE THING we can always count on-the ONE THING that is always taking place with or without us.
This year Maycee entered the 5th grade. She is an upper-classman in elementary school now-more-so than as a 4th grader. She is one step away from being top dog. One step closer to ruling the entire roost. She has embraced this role fully, and along with it, she has embraced so much change within herself.
Up until this year I have been the doer of almost all things for her. I cleaned her room, washed and put away her clothes, made her meals, packed her lunches, woke her up with the sound of my voice and a light nudging or tickling of limbs, checked her homework for completion, helped with any challenges. All of that typical parenting/mom stuff we do for our kids.
Up until this year I was still the “cool mom” who all of my daughter’s friends thought was “pretty and nice”. I held my daughter’s hand while walking across campus after picking her up. I dried her tears if other kids were mean to her and had discussions with her teachers or counselors to make sure any issues were handled and quickly. I was desired at all functions and for sitting down and watching Disney Channel together.
This 5th grade thing has brought into our lives something I wasn’t quite ready for: INDEPENDENCE.
Ha! Just like that Maycee is saying comments like, “Mom, pleeeeeeeezzzz don’t do that. You’re embarrassing me!” So what if I’m dancing around like a crazy woman in delight over the taste of some delicious cafe mocha yogurt at Yogurt Creations in front of a whole bunch of folks, not to mention Maycee’s BFF? Whaaaaat is so embarrassing about that?!
“I’m going to clean up my room after dinner tonight. I need to start keeping it neat. I’m done with Barbies.” OK, who are you, and where did you place my child?
“Mom, I’m going to start bringing my own purse with me everywhere I go.” AKA, I don’t need you to hold MY MONEY.
“Mom, can I ride my bike to school ALONE?” That’s what I’m talking about. Say what?! No!
“Mom, can I get Lunchables to make my own lunch? ALLLLL the kids are eating those now.” Why certainly-let me hand over my lunch-making torch from the last 7 years gladly.
Teacher to Mom during recent Parent/Teacher conference: “Ms. MacInnes, I’d let Maycee start making her own decisions about when she finishes her homework. She knows the consequences if she doesn’t complete it. You don’t need to help her. Give her more responsibility. This is the year for it, and all of MY kids know that. Maycee tells me, ‘After all, I’m in the 5TH GRADE NOW.'”
Morning wake up? No more. Alarm clock to the rescue, and what a happy child it produces! No longer do I hear, “Uuuuugh, I’m soooooo tired! Why did YOU wake ME up so early?!?” Nope. She hears the beep, beep, BEEEEEEEEP and saunters out of her room on time with a smile on her face (a lazy smile, but still a smile) and even says good morning! Well, OK. GOOD MORNING THEN! Yahoo!
And, I won’t even get into the health education and puberty talk. But, I will say that if there’s attitude in the room, well, poor Miss Puberty is to blame according to Maycee. “It’s puberty, Mom. My teacher said. It causes all kinds of behavior stuff.” Well, indeed, it does, I guess. Did I go through that? No wonder my mom is laughing at me on the phone.
“I need to text Fabby now, Mom. It is VERY important. Oh, and I know I said I loved my texting phone, and I do, but I REALLY like Fabby’s I-Phone, and I totally know how to work it. Oh, and I would REALLY like my OWN laptop.” Huh. Really? And, I would like money to grow on trees, but that’s another blog post.
Texting went from nil to 90 within the last few weeks after Maycee discovered Fabby has a phone, too. I am currently using the phrase, “I’m going to have to take it away if you don’t put it down-now.” Help me. Prior to this Maycee said the likes of, “I don’t even use my phone. I forget it’s even there. I don’t want to be one of THOSE people who texts all the time anyways.”
Change can make us forgetful, I suppose.
Drying tears? Over and done with (for now, except if there’s a texting crisis). “Oh, my gosh, Mom. He was so rude (speaking of a bullying sort in her homework class)! And, I told him so, and I thought he was going to come up and shove me because he looked so mad, but I just stormed off and told the teacher! I’m not afraid!” Wowzers.
Hand holding-Lord knows I try. I have to sneak my hand underneath Maycee’s and touch the fingers, which creates an automatic reflex that quickly disappears once she realizes it’s happening. Darn.
Disney Channel? Replaced by Nick at Night’s re-runs of Full House and Fresh Prince of Bel Air. If I’m lucky there’s some room left on the couch for me to squeeze my mommy butt and sit with the girl. If not, I return to my post located in the kitchen corner not to be heard.
Certainly these are all positive changes and quite exciting! Well, a little frightening, too. I mean, it’s just SO MUCH, SO FAST. But, I know that one of the biggest parts of mothering is also learning to let go. Each stage in a child’s life requires a bit of this. If we don’t do it, then independence is hindered and opportunities become more difficult to experience. Not to mention our kids might end up never leaving the house-ever.
When Maycee turned 10 I wrote in her birthday card that I wanted her to soar, and this is what she is doing-in leaps and bounds as her 5th grade year takes shape. I may need bigger wings to keep up, but I’ll find them, if nothing more than to watch and wonder and smile.
I’m glad I logged onto WP today and clicked on that funny little pencil that led me to this “new editor” prompting me to write about the one and only constant in life. And, I’m glad I got to connect with you, Readers. Remember: life is short, so if you’re feeling a little funky just blame puberty, start texting, and give a chuckle!