So, so, sooooooo much to say!
I’ve really been on the edge of telling you, my Readers, that it is time for me to move on. This blog has been a place of healing, a place of learning, a place of refuge, and so much more. I’ve made friendships across the written line, and I’ve been inspired by others almost every day.
But, I’ve experienced this before with my art, my music, and many other hobbies or passions–it seems there comes the time when I’m done. For whatever reason, the necessary point of it passes, and I look toward the next phase of my life.
What, I guess, is difficult about leaving my blog is that as much as it is a bunch of thoughts converted to words and notsocautiously placed into cyberspace, it is also a bit of my exposed soul. The ideas, hopes, dreams and struggles I’ve chosen to share. These are parts of living that will never die. They continue to ebb and flow, and so, there is always something to think, do, or say about them.
I began writing to find a voice as a single working mom. I felt alone, I felt angry, I felt overwhelmed, I felt abandoned, I felt suffocated, I felt…..so much….and voicing this to an unknown audience helped-still helps. I figured, heck, if I was feeling this way, perhaps sharing about it would also give voice and insight to another. My feelings have transformed over these past four years.
Today, I don’t feel alone. Today, I don’t feel angry. Today, I don’t feel abandoned or suffocated. Certainly, many moments I do still feel overwhelmed. This, I’ve realized and accepted as the nature of single parenting. It doesn’t take me over anymore. It only looms slightly upon my back with a tidbit of constant pressure.
This year, 2015, has brought with it some exciting changes, and thus has kept me busy from reading my favorite blogs and, also, from writing.
After six years at my job, I was able to transition away from being an administrative assistant to a field position that takes me into and through the vineyards we manage. With the mentorship of our assistant vineyard manager I will be studying all that goes into growing wine grapes successfully and sustainably. I will also be signing up for an on-line certification course in viticulture. For an “artsy-fartsy got a C in Science type” this is pretty darn cool! The past six years of learning everything on paper have groomed me to be able to do this, and the support of my superiors allowed it to happen. Gratitude and excitement fill my heart.
I’m a horse set free to pasture galloping through the hills to the perfect spot to graze on fresh, green grass.
In addition to this wonderful work opportunity, I was also given my precious Chief, that I’ve been leasing for about nine months. The owner is moving her other horse away from our barn, and she willingly and sweetly gave Chief to me because she believes (as do I, of course) that we belong together. Just after this news, I found out that our barn is up for sale. Mixed emotions consumed me, as the only way I am able to afford keeping two horses (Chief and Star for Maycee) is if I work off the board. What if the new owners don’t need my help? What if they don’t want to keep the boarding business? What if they are mean (I don’t do mean.)? Ha, ha, ha….what if’s will drive us nuts!
Instead of panicking (too much), I’ve done some due diligence and have a couple of back-up options ready to go in case of such what-ifs. This type of tentative planning I’ve become accustomed to as a single mom. No longer do I even entertain the idea of giving up (NO WAY), and no longer do I fret to no end when I’m in the hallway.
2015 is certainly shaping up to be interesting.
And, so, I’ve been in a place of contemplation. Is my time here at WordPress slipping away? Should I abandon ship and move on to new lands?
For now, it appears not. Once again, just when I think I’m done here, I’m not.
I want to share some of the blessings that have occurred in my life-not just this year, but over all of these years. Because….in the beginning of this blog I was desperately afraid and broken. In the beginning the hard knocks took precedence. Now, they don’t. Singleworkingmomswm has grown into her own, and isn’t that all we can really hope for in a world that is crazy, scary, and uncertain?
Blessings, to only name a few…
Family, friends, and neighbors who’ve sustained me through the good and the bad.
My daughter who gives me a zest for life at just the perfect moment.
Horses. Their spirits are like no other animals. Pure beauty.
Our pets, for their unconditional love.
Learning to embrace change.
Finding strength in the smallest of places.
Hearing the crickets, and seeing the birds, jackrabbits, and butterflies in the field.
A home and a job that provide a sense of stability.
Tuning out the voices that say, “You can’t.”
Just being me.
I don’t know how often I will get here right now, but I do want to tell you, ALL of you, that I’m grateful for this forum. I’m so grateful, and that is enough to keep me hanging around, if even on the perimeter.
And to other single moms who may be reading my blog I say this: Yes, you can. You and your children are worth it. Ask for help. Be gentle to yourself. Press forward and have faith because there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and it will show you the way to new beginnings.